Passive Aggressive Trap
In the Passive Aggressive Trap we are feeling angry, but we have been taught not to express our anger; to express anger puts us at risk of being rejected or criticised.
To protect our self-imposed need for acceptance we manifest our repressed emotions through passive aggressive behaviours such as:
giving the silent treatment
being sarcastic, rolling our eyes and saying ‘of course nothing’s wrong’.
What to do if you reach Passive Aggressive Trap?
Remember that this behaviour stems from a desire to please other people; a desire to avoid conflict and keep everyone happy.
It’s just that you have forgotten that you also have the right to express your own wants and needs. By making yourself a priority you can learn that you can get your needs met by openly expressing your feelings calmly and communicating clearly.
‘Being direct is less confusing and allows for a stimulating dialogue rather than frustrating disconnections.’
Susan Solomon, psychotherapist
Extracted from “Self Care isn’t Selfish “